As I’m sure you’re all aware, Tuesday 10th October was #WorldMentalHealthDay – a day to unite the world and raise awareness of all mental health issues.
It’s no secret that I suffer from anxiety and depression (as do a lot of people), so the day was something I wanted to get behind and promote. From experience, a number of people who simply don’t understand is shocking. I’ve had many suggest it’s not ‘real’ and that it’s because of my temperament. But, what they don’t seem to grasp is that anyone who suffers can’t control how they feel and more importantly, they don’t want to feel this way.
So, what has this got to do with a book blog?
Well, the reason I decided to post this blog today was that it got me thinking about how people feel when they blog. Although the majority of feelings are always positive, there are times where it all becomes a little too much!
Recently, I’ve noticed bloggers posting about their struggles with trying to keep the right balance – whether this is through work and blogging or blogging for work. The majority of people always seem to feel bad about not posting and the negative connotations surrounding it.
Where does the pressure and negative feelings come from?
Well, most of the time the pressure comes from the individual themselves and that’s all because they care!
I will admit that I often feel anxiety about my blog because let’s face it, I need to post more, but I struggle to find the time. However, the only person that puts unnecessary pressure on me for not posting is: me.
My fear is that if I don’t post frequently, I’ll lose the engagement and/or publishers won’t send me books anymore. It has happened before where I’ve taken some absence and people who I spoke to (and formed a relationship with!) stopped talking and publishers didn’t email anymore. It’s not a nice feeling when you’ve put so much time and effort into something for it to just dwindle away so easily.
But, do you know what?
F**k it! Blogging should be fun and that’s the main reason I started: to have fun! It is, and always will be, a hobby and I shouldn’t feel pressured or stressed about it. So what if people stop talking? They weren’t worth it if this is how you get treated. If publishers don’t send any books? Don’t panic, there are bookshops out there! Buy ones to read instead. Personally, I never started this blog to receive free books and that’s one thing I need to remember.
So, here’s my advice to you:
There’s no point in stressing over something you can’t change. Move on and grow stronger.
Please don’t put unnecessary pressure on yourselves. You’ve got a lot more other things to worry about! Your blog isn’t going anywhere and you can get back to it when you’re feeling in the right frame of mind.
We’re all human and things don’t always go right and that’s fine – you can do it!